Helen Lederer

"if you are looking for commitment get a lip tattoo"

Actress, writer and founder of the Comedy Women in Print Awards, Helen Lederer joins Samantha Baines to chat divorce in this hilarious episode. Sam gets a bit of therapy from ex-social worker Helen and the two discuss lip tattoos, feeling alone and the quest for a boyfriend. Lots of laughs and excellent advice in the last episode of the first series.

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Sam  00:12

Welcome to the divorce club hosted by me comedian and divorcee Samantha Baines. You might be starting a new chapter due to your divorce. Maybe you have a friend who's going through a divorce or yet just plain curious. I recently got divorced age 32. And it was a bit of a whirlwind doing it so young. Yes, I still believe I'm young. Don't ruin it for me. I felt confused, free and lonely. So I decided to interview some interesting people about their divorce experiences in the hope that it would help me get out a house mainly, and maybe help you too. Don't worry. I am a comedian so it won't be all doom and gloom. Welcome to The Divorce Club. I am joined by comedian, writer, actress and founder of Comedy Women in Print, Helen Lederer. Hello.

Helen  01:05

Hello how joyous to be in your pod situation.

Sam  01:09

That pod situation. Well, welcome to The Divorce Club,

Helen  01:12

Divorce Club, Divorce Club. And what made you some call it The Divorce Club? May I enquire?

Sam  01:19

Well, I recently got divorced. So keyword there in the title, but I felt a little bit like as soon as I started to tell people that I got divorced, the people who hadn't been divorced, looked very awkward and avoided the conversation. And the people who had been divorced kind of lit up is the wrong word, but immediately started telling me about their experiences. And it definitely does feel like a bit of a club like Yeah, you've experienced it. You have a certain bond with someone who's telling you about it. So that's why I called it The Divorce Club.

Helen  01:53

I think it's good. I think it reminds me of that American film called was it, The Many Wives or the First Wives Club? Oh, yeah. And you Any of those things, but I would suggest as a, as a person who's been around the block a few more times than you, you're young is that it's quite raw at the beginning. So all this quite legitimate, understandable awareness that you're experiencing. I suspect, give yourself five years or less. It will just be another thing like, oh, that time I got my lips tattooed which is bloody stupid thing to do doesn't mean it'll just become a feature as opposed to a identity or more of an identifiable thing.

Sam  02:33

Do you have your lips tattooed?

Helen  02:34

I do. I've put lipstick on. Unusually, in this lockdown situation. Makeup is such a rarity. But what happened years ago, in fact, I think I had just become separated. So I was in that situation. And I thought, What can I do to myself, and I went to this woman near Liberty's it was and I for an outline of my mouth to be tattooed. I said will it hurt? And she said yes. So I cracked on. May I just tell you it was the most painful thing. Think of all the times you've been chucked. I mean, this is physical pain. And so now in the days I do acting and the makeup girl, sort of tries to take my lipstick off I go, No, no, don't worry. It's a...

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