S4 18. Do you have spontaneous or responsive desire?

Sex therapist Cate and son Diggory ask whether lesbian bed death (the idea that lesbians' sex lives become non existent in long-term relationships) is really a myth, throwing up other questions like:


  • Where did the idea of 'lesbian bed death' come from?
  • How do lesbians sex lives compare to their counterparts in other relationship styles?
  • What is responsive and spontaneous desire and which one do I have?


Cate and Diggory also answer two listener questions about whether its okay to fantasise about having sex with other people whilst you're in a relationship and getting into creampie with your wife.


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