Josh Braun on why you should stop trying to change minds, and start listening instead – Episode 47
We met back in 2006 when he hired me for my first exciting grown-up job working as a comedy writer for an educational software product.
Yes. You read that sentence correctly.
I'll never forget this particular fork-in-the-road moment: I had just come home from my absolutely awful temp position processing mortgage applications, and I'd decided I was done. I hated my job and knew I had so many other skills to offer, but didn't really have any clue what I was looking for. It was 11 pm at night by the time I found the unconventional job posting in the Gigs section of Craigslist that sounded like it was written by a human who was introducing themselves at a friend's house. It was written in such a funny voice, I thought it might be some kind of joke!
Feeling punchy and like I had nothing to lose, I went ahead and responded to the ad. This was a job where humans seemed like they might actually get to act like humans, and I wanted a piece of that!
With unbelievable amounts of honesty that included fun facts about my work ethic and my t-shirt collection, I made sure that the flirtiest, goofiest, biggest, and boldest parts of my personality showed up to the cover letter party. I wasn't trying to be the person that fit the role. I wanted to be the human that these humans were excited to meet.
At 1:30 am I sent the cover letter and my resume to the email address provided. The phone rang just before 8 am that same morning. It was Josh's voice on the other end of the line "That's the best cover letter I've ever read. No joke, I'm framing it and putting it on my wall."
While both of our paths have taken us away from the kind of work we shared at that particular company in 2006, the elements that brought us together in the first place have remained a priority for both of us in our separate endeavors: simple, humble, human communication.
I use these skills to teach storytelling and to help teams work well with each other. He uses these skills to teach sales; but, we're not just teachers. We're students too.
What's in this episode?Why trying to change people's minds feels frustrating
What you might want to try instead
Why it's helpful to shine a light on the cost of inaction
What is Motivational Interviewing? Why is it helpful?
How modern technology is affecting the way we communicate
What happened to cause Josh to realize that instead of money, he needed to prioritize the moments and the people in life that he cares about the most.
Memorable Things Josh Braun Said:"You don't control other people. You don't control your revenue number, you don't control how people respond to your message. You don't control your quota. You don't control if people are going to hang up on you. You don't control if something's going to change. https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/lou-radja/ (You only control what is in your nature )to be able to control: what you say, what you want to do, how you conduct yourself, how you behave, and your thoughts."
"When we start to change people's minds, we often are met with resistance because people don't like it when other people take away their freedom to choose you telling a teenager to stop smoking naturally start to smoke more, it's actually something called https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/reshanda-yates/ (the backfire effect)."
"The secret skill is to actually https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/gary-hirsch/ (make the other person feel heard). That is a skill that a lot of people take for granted-- listening--because we do it all the time. And it's a tragedy because unless we realize that...