Margery Arnold on How the Loss of Mom Represents Living Two Different Lives – Episode 44
At the time, her goal was to lose 250lbs.
Now as wild as this idea was, she wanted to start the project, not with a doctor, dietician, or natural health expert at her side... but instead with me a friend and facilitator with a background in improv and play.
Margery and I have been friends for nearly 15 years... if our friendship was a person, it would be a teenager! I suppose that means that our friendship is filled with honest opinions and unreasonable confidence in wild ideas being worth some attention.
I've heard many stories about her mom over the years, we used to meet up and share a piece of cheesecake to commemorate her mother's life on the anniversary of what would have been her birthday.
But hearing her story in the context of this interview, gave me a new perspective on my friend's experience. It also allowed me an opportunity to reflect on grief, the impact of losing a loved one, and more.
What you'll hear in this episode:For listeners of Positive Thinpact, there is a long-overdue update about how Margery's journey has been going (or had been going at the time of this interview's recording, in the spring of 2021)
How to handle your opinions about other people's weight gain, weight loss, and other body changes
The invisibility of being fat
Thoughts on choosing to take medication to lose weight, in light of the dangers of covid for those who have health and weight issues
The status of the Positive Thinpact Podcast
How someone who is analytical by nature, and well-practiced at studying data and recognizing patterns, processes change.
A discussion of the human ability to predict the future, and the accuracy of predictions
The importance of pattern recognition
The pivotal experience of losing her mother to inflammatory breast cancer following https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/maraya-brown/ (standard hormone therapy )for menopause
The impact of having cared for a https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/brian-macmillan-kptv/ (dying parent) as a person in her early 20s
An acknowledgment of how individuals grieve differently and a few suggestions for those who know someone currently grieving
The key idea when you lose a parent young, you end up living two lives: the one when they are still alive, and the one in which they no longer exist.
How life might have turned out differently, better in some ways, worse in some ways, had mom survived
A few links to check out:The book Margery referenced is called https://www.amazon.com/Motherless-Daughters-Legacy-Loss-Anniversary/dp/0738217735/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwgviIBhBkEiwA10D2j6TWCmHLi0_QR1DFYLnVT9nirz82OsbI1EmmV0pTu8jHkIYk87qT_xoC7XgQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241619600533&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9032878&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=4621187081119453607&hvtargid=kwd-11390016387&hydadcr=22565_10355049&keywords=motherless+daughters+book&qid=1629404098&sr=8-1 (Motherless Daughters): The Legacy of Loss and was written by Hope Edelmen
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