Being upbeat is complicated

Being upbeat is complicated - when is the smiling face a mask?


In the face of a continuing pandemic and life doing it’s worst, we discuss being upbeat, having humour about the situation. How do we engage in a non-cynical way when we have this rolling anger underneath it all?

Is our humour and positivity good for us, and for those around us? Should we let our anger show more clearly? We are angry and positive at the same time. Is our optimism in spite of it all a sign of us being non-normative?

It is OK to be positive. It is OK not to be OK. It is OK to be angry. It is OK to imagine a world where we queers are winning as the glittery cockroaches we are! It is OK to have all of these at the same time!

Anger can be ridiculous. How can we use kindness and positivity when we react against the anger and frustration, and look at how we can change the world for the better?

Being queer can be detrimental to your well being and there are some days “when you just can’t”. There should be no pressure to be happy or positive. 


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