225: What if you stared into the abyss?

“People who are grieving a serious loss, and you’re staring into the abyss, they understand intimately the loss that we are all going to face, what we all will see.”

Today's episode featured Frank Vaughan. If you'd like to reach out to Frank, you can email him at f.vaughan@verizon.net.


Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits


Episode Summary: At the peak of his life, having built a successful marriage, family and career, a man faces a series of compound losses that put him through a dark night of the soul.


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Content/Trigger Warnings: cancer, terminal illness, alcoholism, death, animal death, compound loss, explicit language


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Intro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper

Music Bed: Ambient Themes by Nigel Coutinho



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