212: What if everyone pretended you were dead?

“I had no reference point of how to live or behave or anything….It was like this cocoon had been just ripped away from me, and I didn’t know what my beliefs really were.”


Today’s episode featured Benjamin. If you’d like to reach out, you can email him at exjwbw@yahoo.com.


Producers: Whit Missildine, Jason Blalock

Episode Summary: A man searches to find love for himself and his family after facing the dark consequences of being disfellowshipped by the Jehovah’s Witness.

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Content/Trigger Warnings: sexual assault, molestation, suicidal ideation, alcohol and drug abuse, addiction, mental illness, domestic abuse, suicide attempt, explicit language


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