228: What if you grew up with the ghosts of war?

“Because so much of my life when I’d seen things happening I’d been told that it wasn’t really happening, I think my brain kind of formed to think that reality was not real.”


Today’s guest requested to remain anonymous, but if you’d like to contact her, you can email at: kbojangles5@gmail.com.


Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits


Episode Summary: A woman struggles to break out of her role caretaking a father who was haunted by his experiences in Vietnam, but when both of their worlds unravel, she must find a new source of strength.  


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Content/Trigger Warnings: graphic violence, graphic bodily injury, graphic images of war, rape, mental illness, derealization, suicidal ideation, death, explicit language


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Intro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper

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