195: What if you never stopped searching?

“The not knowing is awful, and it’s awful from day one and it’s awful thirty years later, but every day that goes by you get more and more in reality.”


Producers: Whit Missildine, Jason Blalock

Episode Summary: Decades after her brother disappeared in the early 1980s, a woman becomes deeply involved in the search for a missing friend.   

Today’s episode featured Sarah Haynes. Somebody out there knows something about her brother Jon Haynes, who went missing in Boulder July 1981 just days after arriving for college. If you know anything, please contact the Boulder police department. There is a $10,000 reward for info leading to his body, his car, or for information about who may have harmed him https://apps.colorado.gov/apps/coldcase/casedetail.html?id=258


Sarah’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/sarahspitfire 


Her animal sanctuary on Maui is called Kitty Charm Farm and the Facebook page is:



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Content/Trigger Warnings: missing person, abusive threats, explicit language


Intro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper

Music Bed: Ambient Themes by Nigel Coutinho



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